WWCode Career Nav #28: One Should Always be Unfinished
I am someone who wants to do not only the things limited to me but go beyond. I look for ways that I can be better than I previously was. There are so many things I want to explore and do in my life. That's why I want to be on top of my undertaking. Being unfinished is not about money or any materialistic wins. It's just about me. It's about you. It's about how I am and what I want to be more of in the future.
I want to be changed entirely and keep exploring different dimensions of my personality. That's how I have molded myself, and I am what I am today. Are you content with who you are right now? You don't even know what you can be. I want to bring out that fire, that restlessness in people. People generally tend to settle with what they have and don't take risks in life. They may not want to explore different parts of their lives and personalities.
I want to share this experience. I was watching one of Sadhguru's videos on YouTube. He shared a story where he said a newly married woman went to her mother's place. She said that her husband is very excellent, and he gives her whatever she asks for. The mother smiles slightly and pauses for a while, saying, "obviously, you're not asking enough." I was just stunned to hear such a reply. There's this hidden lesson. If you don't ask enough from life, you will eventually settle with what you have right now. Being unfinished is just not having any regrets in life later.
We generally do not realize that we have so many "what-ifs" at every stage of our lives, what if of this or what if of that. I don't want to have any of that when I'm older. I want to thank every experience I have ever had because I want to make that a fun and learning one. I believe these experiences will change my personality. They define my personality differently. They make the world see me differently. That's why I have confidence today. I have my opinions and am not afraid to speak them out loud to anybody.
I was a shy kid, and I still am. I'm trying to fight this fear every day. I have also taken this opportunity to come out of this comfort zone. Back in my school, I was a very studious kid, this gawky little kid sitting in the back of the class and working. I was very good at my studies. I was also good at music and singing. I could never explore that opportunity because I used to fear what people might think and how they would react to my singing. I used to get jealous of people who were always more confident than I was, getting on the stage, speaking, having debate competitions, and having individual solo performances.
I was about to graduate, and there was this inner voice. I don't know what it was, but I went straight to my teacher and said, "Ma'am, I want to perform before I graduate. I want to show them that I also know different skills." And she said, "Okay, let's practice and see how good you are with it. And maybe we can have you perform at one of our events in school." We were practicing, and she was stunned to hear my voice. I was on cloud nine after that experience because of her appreciation. Her comments made me so happy. I was a different girl from that day because I had this different aura, a different confidence. That's how I started my journey of exploring different things.
Because of that event, I have been open to experiences. I take my fear out of my opportunities. I don't let fear and obstacles stop me from exploring new things. I have learned to have this emotional stability to the consequences of my actions. I'm going to explore new things, be they bad, ugly, or sound. I will experience these things in my life so that I can see the world and see my life from a different point of view, from a different perspective.
I've also learned to be adaptable. I believe that I'm pretty agile. No one remains the same as they were. You constantly evolve, and you should always accept yourself as you are right now. Always recall what you have been through so you can know how much you've grown through the months and years and what you are now. Being adaptable is another one of my strengths. To allow myself to blossom into this boundless state, I've just learned these things that have helped me to transform. I have always tried to push myself, keep learning, and be greedy for excellence.
Shrishti Vaish - Data Analyst at Numerator and Women Who Code Python Track Lead